Category Archive: Congruence

Apr 17

5 Strategies that Will KEEP You at the Bottom

Do you feel alone? You say you want to connect to people and you wish someone was there for you when you are down and out. You wish you could turn to someone who will listen. It is not unusual to feel alone in the world from time to time. However if you feel this …

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Nov 14

Quality of Life Backpack

What do you carry in your back pack for increasing the quality of your life? How do you know what is important to pack with you for the journey? Your back pack is just like life and is limited in what it will hold. The quality of your life depends on filling your back pack with purposeful and meaningul direction and then …

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Jan 27

Thrive Like Betty White: Become Self-Directed.

I am named after Brenda Starr who was considered a prima donna and a feminist with a mind of her own. She was a role model for me to learn about being self-directed.  Brenda Starr ran in the Sunday comic for over 70 years. Hence, I spent most of my formative years pouring over her newspaper …

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Jan 01

5 Steps to Personal Growth and Happiness

Motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said, “I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacations with better care than they plan their lives. Perhaps it’s because escape is easier than change.” What is your opinion of Rohn’s quote? I feel motivated as I take a look at the New Year and make plans to …

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Aug 09

How to Find Direction: Use Your Values

 I am excited today to introduce you to Lauren Anderson a therapist in training who is emerging as a creative and caring counselor. I met Lauren through an on-line community, The Boulder Psychotherapy Institute. What stood out about Lauren, even on-line, was her enthusiasm and focus. She knew where to put her energies from the …

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Mar 20

The Secret to Higher Self Esteem and Self Confidence

The single biggest thing you can do to increase your self-esteem and self-confidence is to clarify your values and then live a life with integrity based on those values. Sometime this is referred to as having fidelity with your authentic self. In more common terms it is being true to yourself. Sometimes this can be painful and cause …

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Jul 02

Free to be Yourself

With the 4th of July on Monday I ask, “Do you feel free to be yourself? I believe being yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can offer to  yourself and to others. I find when I am authentic I attract other people who also are authentic. Of course, being authentic is being able to be vulnerable which …

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May 14

Change the Dance

I have a simple formula for creating change taken from ACT Training. The bottom line is that I have habits that seem to fall into patterns. Patterns  are like a dance I know by heart. To create a change in the dance pattern I first need to be aware of the dance pattern. And that I  want to change …

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Dec 11

Gifts to Yourself: Today

Present moment is the last concept of psychological flexibility. Present moment the thread that weaves the concepts together. It is in the present moment we go back and forth from our willingness to experience our feelings, sensations and thoughts, to values and committed action. It is in the here and now we are able to observe and …

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Nov 29

Gifts to Yourself: Vitality

This is part 4 of Gifts to Yourself: A brief review can be found in the previous posts: Psychological Flexibility – vitality in living life Values – the compass to leading a meaningful life Acceptance – Willingness to feel the uncomfortable Cognitive Defusion – mindfulness and the observer What’s left? Committed action. This fits into how you …

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