Tag Archive: Congruence

Apr 17

5 Strategies that Will KEEP You at the Bottom

Do you feel alone? You say you want to connect to people and you wish someone was there for you when you are down and out. You wish you could turn to someone who will listen. It is not unusual to feel alone in the world from time to time. However if you feel this …

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Jan 27

Thrive Like Betty White: Become Self-Directed.

I am named after Brenda Starr who was considered a prima donna and a feminist with a mind of her own. She was a role model for me to learn about being self-directed.  Brenda Starr ran in the Sunday comic for over 70 years. Hence, I spent most of my formative years pouring over her newspaper …

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Jan 01

5 Steps to Personal Growth and Happiness

Motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said, “I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacations with better care than they plan their lives. Perhaps it’s because escape is easier than change.” What is your opinion of Rohn’s quote? I feel motivated as I take a look at the New Year and make plans to …

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Jan 01

Long-Term Goals ~ Again

Here we are again. If you are looking back over the past year and saying to yourself this year will be different, you are not alone. The cartoon from my on-line friend Chato B. Stewart illustrates the point of “again.” On my list, I noticed I crossed a few things off and still have a few things left. The …

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Oct 01

Values: Family Relations

One of my favorite things to do is spend time with my grandchildren. I feel a special warmth inside myself when I can set outside and watch them explore nature, run, laugh and giggle. They are so curious and innocent. Precious is the word I use to describe them. Their sweet little kisses on my …

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Jul 02

Free to be Yourself

With the 4th of July on Monday I ask, “Do you feel free to be yourself? I believe being yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can offer to  yourself and to others. I find when I am authentic I attract other people who also are authentic. Of course, being authentic is being able to be vulnerable which …

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May 17

Toons-day: Guilt

Do you feel guilty most of the time? Can you remember the first time you felt you were guilty just because? Many of us have internalized messages left over from our childhood leaving us with the belief that some how we are bad. If you are feeling like you are a bad person that is called shame. You …

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May 14

Change the Dance

I have a simple formula for creating change taken from ACT Training. The bottom line is that I have habits that seem to fall into patterns. Patterns  are like a dance I know by heart. To create a change in the dance pattern I first need to be aware of the dance pattern. And that I  want to change …

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Nov 29

Gifts to Yourself: Vitality

This is part 4 of Gifts to Yourself: A brief review can be found in the previous posts: Psychological Flexibility – vitality in living life Values – the compass to leading a meaningful life Acceptance – Willingness to feel the uncomfortable Cognitive Defusion – mindfulness and the observer What’s left? Committed action. This fits into how you …

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Nov 08

Gifts to Yourself: Values

Last week I attended a two day workshop to learn some new skills. Consequently, I did not write my weekly blog. However, I gained some gifts I will share with you. First I want to let you know one of the things I really value in life is learning.  Learning is a way for me to …

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